Marriage – October 4, 2019

1069006“A woman means by Unselfishness chiefly taking trouble for others; a man means not giving trouble to others…thus, while the woman thinks of doing good offices and the man of respecting other people’s rights, each sex, without any obvious unreason, can and does regard the other as radically selfish.”

― C.S. Lewis, The Screwtape Letters

Or said another way; she’s trying to “love” him by “mothering” him and that makes him feel belittled and disrespected.  Meanwhile he’s trying to “respect” her by showing her that he believes she can do it by herself – which leaves her feeling completely unloved and alone.  Interesting that God specifically instructs each of us to DO what DOESN’T come naturally, but what the other most NEEDS, isn’t it? (Ephesians 5:33)  Hope to see you tonight at Marriage Matters!

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